Pride & Respect!
It was actually my first time witnessing Montreal Pride this year. I am glad to see all individual companies, groups, families either simply passing the parade or dressing up particularly for the event; everyone had showed their respect and recognition to the event whether they support or disagree LGBTQ communities.
This recalled my first week arriving in Montreal on my way to my husband's work place for lunch with him everyday. I could easily hear 4 to 5 different languages (not English nor French) spoken among different families in the hospital and Canada is such a true immigration country. Once immigrants leave their own country, they will discover a new world speaking foreign languages with people having different lifestyles and thinking than them. We have to learn to live peacefully with people from 194 countries in the world and try to respect billons of people out of our motherland.
Gradually, we also become aware and sensitive that there is actually no language or culture barrier of human good and ill will. For instance, the Pakistan lady next door who speaks no English nor French will sometimes sweep off the leaves in our yards unintentionally without mentioning a word to us. Days by days, months by months, we build our trust between us without communicating much to each other. We feel so lucky to have her helping us to water our plants with simple sign language when we are away for holidays. On the contrast, we thought that it could be trustful of engaging the tax specialist recommended by the Chinese Service Centre who speaks the same language with similar culture; we ended up with absolute disappointment and yet lost confidence in all Chinese tax specialists. The tax specialist dared to increase the price 3 times more than what we agreed on our first appointment at the point of finalizing our tax declaration. In addition, she had never been able to attend to us as appointment time given but keeping us waiting for at least one hour each time. Yet, she was so worn out during the tax season that we were so afraid that she might make mistakes in our declaration.
During the recent volunteering and some business related charity events, I cannot believe more the old saying: how you carry yourself and your actions tell who you are. One's speech and action deserve whether the respect of disdain of others. It has nothing to do with language, culture, wealth, public opinion or weapon!
We all have a heart of flesh and eyes to distinguish one true self of kindness or inhumanity or disguise; the fact speaks louder than words as the Chinese proverb: fire cannot wrap in paper. Only those who know how to respect and be truthful to others find their peace of mind with no fear! Isn't it clear why someone is so unfavourable and fails to gain respect and loses his pride to others?
尊严&尊重
其实这是我第一次经过，目睹蒙特利尔年度的同志尊严游行盛事。 不同的企业、团体、家庭、种族、个人都欢欢喜喜地或精心装扮或只是好奇路过地共襄盛举，无论是支持或认同同志运动与否，大家都给予同志和参与者肯定和尊重。
这让联想到我第一周到蒙特利尔，每天步行到医院和先生共进午餐的路上或在医院的食堂可以听见至少4、5个家庭用自己的母语（非英语或法语）交谈，见证了加拿大这个移民社会的大熔炉。 每一个新移民离开自己熟悉的国家和环境，走出去以后就可以发现外面的世界和自己原来的国家不经相同。 我们必须学习尊重来自世界194个不同国家和另外几十亿的人与我们的差异，和平共处。
渐渐地我们会发现也许大家说着不一样的语言，生活饮食习惯和想法也大相径庭，可是人性的恶与善似乎完全没有语言的隔阂和鸿沟；只要用心感受，了然于心。譬如隔壁家不懂得说英语和法语的巴基斯坦太太总是一脸祥和地在院子里打扫，总不时静悄悄地顺便把我们的院子的叶子也都清理好，一句抱怨或邀功的话语也没有。 久而久之，我们即便语言不通却培养了无声的默契和信任，每次出差就比手划脚，把家里的钥匙交给她，麻烦她照顾家里的植物。 反之，以为大家用中文比较容易交流和沟通，相信华人服务中心介绍的会计税务所，经过第一次咨询确定报税价格以后开始递交资料，每一次的约定的时间都要等很久；而他们的客户太多，个个都累得眼睛都快张不开；效率低之外，我们更担心他们是否会因为体力不支而出差错。 最不可思议的是最后报税当天，他们就地起价，要收我们之前说好的三倍价钱！
而这些日子在食物银行帮忙及开始参与一些华人慈善和商业的活动，心里更加认同英文的一个说法 -the way you carry yourself and your actions tell who you are- 一个人的一言一行体现了自己的尊严和斤两。 我们究竟是否可以得到别人的尊重和认同，并非语言、文化或任何的外在财力、舆论或武器可以控制的！
人心是用肉做的，世界的每一双眼睛都是雪亮的，事实胜于雄辩，纸包不住火。 无论你如何争辩、掩饰，大家都看在眼里，感受着你的一言一行的真伪。 如果你懂得平和地尊重别人和彼此的差异，毋庸置疑你自然也会得到应得的敬重。
千夫所指的原因何在？ 咎由自取。
Pride & Respect!
It was actually my first time witnessing Montreal Pride this year. I am glad to see all individual companies, groups, families either simply passing the parade or dressing up particularly for the event; everyone had showed their respect and recognition to the event whether they support or disagree LGBTQ communities.
This recalled my first week arriving in Montreal on my way to my husband's work place for lunch with him everyday. I could easily hear 4 to 5 different languages (not English nor French) spoken among different families in the hospital and Canada is such a true immigration country. Once immigrants leave their own country, they will discover a new world speaking foreign languages with people having different lifestyles and thinking than them. We have to learn to live peacefully with people from 194 countries in the world and try to respect billons of people out of our motherland.
Gradually, we also become aware and sensitive that there is actually no language or culture barrier of human good and ill will. For instance, the Pakistan lady next door who speaks no English nor French will sometimes sweep off the leaves in our yards unintentionally without mentioning a word to us. Days by days, months by months, we build our trust between us without communicating much to each other. We feel so lucky to have her helping us to water our plants with simple sign language when we are away for holidays. On the contrast, we thought that it could be trustful of engaging the tax specialist recommended by the Chinese Service Centre who speaks the same language with similar culture; we ended up with absolute disappointment and yet lost confidence in all Chinese tax specialists. The tax specialist dared to increase the price 3 times more than what we agreed on our first appointment at the point of finalizing our tax declaration. In addition, she had never been able to attend to us as appointment time given but keeping us waiting for at least one hour each time. Yet, she was so worn out during the tax season that we were so afraid that she might make mistakes in our declaration.
Gradually, we also become aware and sensitive that there is actually no language or culture barrier of human good and ill will. For instance, the Pakistan lady next door who speaks no English nor French will sometimes sweep off the leaves in our yards unintentionally without mentioning a word to us. Days by days, months by months, we build our trust between us without communicating much to each other. We feel so lucky to have her helping us to water our plants with simple sign language when we are away for holidays. On the contrast, we thought that it could be trustful of engaging the tax specialist recommended by the Chinese Service Centre who speaks the same language with similar culture; we ended up with absolute disappointment and yet lost confidence in all Chinese tax specialists. The tax specialist dared to increase the price 3 times more than what we agreed on our first appointment at the point of finalizing our tax declaration. In addition, she had never been able to attend to us as appointment time given but keeping us waiting for at least one hour each time. Yet, she was so worn out during the tax season that we were so afraid that she might make mistakes in our declaration.
During the recent volunteering and some business related charity events, I cannot believe more the old saying: how you carry yourself and your actions tell who you are. One's speech and action deserve whether the respect of disdain of others. It has nothing to do with language, culture, wealth, public opinion or weapon!
We all have a heart of flesh and eyes to distinguish one true self of kindness or inhumanity or disguise; the fact speaks louder than words as the Chinese proverb: fire cannot wrap in paper. Only those who know how to respect and be truthful to others find their peace of mind with no fear! Isn't it clear why someone is so unfavourable and fails to gain respect and loses his pride to others?
尊严&尊重
其实这是我第一次经过，目睹蒙特利尔年度的同志尊严游行盛事。 不同的企业、团体、家庭、种族、个人都欢欢喜喜地或精心装扮或只是好奇路过地共襄盛举，无论是支持或认同同志运动与否，大家都给予同志和参与者肯定和尊重。
这让联想到我第一周到蒙特利尔，每天步行到医院和先生共进午餐的路上或在医院的食堂可以听见至少4、5个家庭用自己的母语（非英语或法语）交谈，见证了加拿大这个移民社会的大熔炉。 每一个新移民离开自己熟悉的国家和环境，走出去以后就可以发现外面的世界和自己原来的国家不经相同。 我们必须学习尊重来自世界194个不同国家和另外几十亿的人与我们的差异，和平共处。
渐渐地我们会发现也许大家说着不一样的语言，生活饮食习惯和想法也大相径庭，可是人性的恶与善似乎完全没有语言的隔阂和鸿沟；只要用心感受，了然于心。譬如隔壁家不懂得说英语和法语的巴基斯坦太太总是一脸祥和地在院子里打扫，总不时静悄悄地顺便把我们的院子的叶子也都清理好，一句抱怨或邀功的话语也没有。 久而久之，我们即便语言不通却培养了无声的默契和信任，每次出差就比手划脚，把家里的钥匙交给她，麻烦她照顾家里的植物。 反之，以为大家用中文比较容易交流和沟通，相信华人服务中心介绍的会计税务所，经过第一次咨询确定报税价格以后开始递交资料，每一次的约定的时间都要等很久；而他们的客户太多，个个都累得眼睛都快张不开；效率低之外，我们更担心他们是否会因为体力不支而出差错。 最不可思议的是最后报税当天，他们就地起价，要收我们之前说好的三倍价钱！
渐渐地我们会发现也许大家说着不一样的语言，生活饮食习惯和想法也大相径庭，可是人性的恶与善似乎完全没有语言的隔阂和鸿沟；只要用心感受，了然于心。譬如隔壁家不懂得说英语和法语的巴基斯坦太太总是一脸祥和地在院子里打扫，总不时静悄悄地顺便把我们的院子的叶子也都清理好，一句抱怨或邀功的话语也没有。 久而久之，我们即便语言不通却培养了无声的默契和信任，每次出差就比手划脚，把家里的钥匙交给她，麻烦她照顾家里的植物。 反之，以为大家用中文比较容易交流和沟通，相信华人服务中心介绍的会计税务所，经过第一次咨询确定报税价格以后开始递交资料，每一次的约定的时间都要等很久；而他们的客户太多，个个都累得眼睛都快张不开；效率低之外，我们更担心他们是否会因为体力不支而出差错。 最不可思议的是最后报税当天，他们就地起价，要收我们之前说好的三倍价钱！
而这些日子在食物银行帮忙及开始参与一些华人慈善和商业的活动，心里更加认同英文的一个说法 -the way you carry yourself and your actions tell who you are- 一个人的一言一行体现了自己的尊严和斤两。 我们究竟是否可以得到别人的尊重和认同，并非语言、文化或任何的外在财力、舆论或武器可以控制的！
人心是用肉做的，世界的每一双眼睛都是雪亮的，事实胜于雄辩，纸包不住火。 无论你如何争辩、掩饰，大家都看在眼里，感受着你的一言一行的真伪。 如果你懂得平和地尊重别人和彼此的差异，毋庸置疑你自然也会得到应得的敬重。
千夫所指的原因何在？ 咎由自取。
